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Here Is All You Need To Know About Alimony

Before you file for the divorce, read up on how alimony works and what you can expect from your life in the future. Understanding how things work can be of paramount importance.

If your marriage is not working out and you are considering going through a divorce, there is one reality that you must face: Alimony.

If you are the spouse that is earning a lot more money than the spouse that you have been married for years now the chances are strong that you will be court ordered to give them a certain amount of money as “spousal support”. After all, they need maintain their living standards. However, alimony is not generally awarded if the marriage was short or if the spouses in the marriage earned similar amounts of money.

How does it work?

If the court decides to order you to pay the alimony, you will be forced to give a certain amount of money each month to your former spouse and that will last for a while. There are multiple ways to determine the duration of alimony payments and the court ruling will tell you exactly which one is being used. To list them:

– You might have to pay until a date comes that the judge set, usually multiple years in the future

– You will no longer need to pay for alimony if your former spouse gets married again

If you are paying for child support and if that child no longer needs a full-time parent.

– You can also move to stop the alimony payments by asking a judge to determine if, after a reasonable period of time, your former spouse has not yet made enough effort to attempt to become self-supporting, or at least, partially self-supporting.

– Other significant events can occur to convince the judge to either modify the amount or stop the payments.

But, before even going to the court on the question of alimony, you should consider agreeing with your soon to be former spouse on both the amount that you will need to pay and how long it will go on.

Being ordered to pay alimony does not mean you are at fault

Unfortunately, a lot of people still believe that the one paying the alimony is guilty of something or are a bad person. None of that is true. Your marriage did not work out and this is simply a cost of entering an ill-fated marriage. Alimony has existed for well over a century and it will not be abolished any time soon. So just remember to not blame yourself.

What if we flip the tables, and you are the one expecting to receive alimony?

Remember, alimony payments have nothing to do with being a good or a bad person during the marriage. The system was not set up for people to be punished for their behavior but simply to support those who gave up their careers to let the other partner grow their own.

Whether or not you are going to get the alimony is usually determined not by the amount of money you earn right now, but by the amount you can potentially earn if you start working. Of course, that is not the only factor, if you are expected to earn enough money to support yourself, but your spouse is a very rich person who afforded very high standards of living while you were married you still qualify for alimony so that you can maintain the quality of your life. But, if they are not that rich you should be ready to make some changes.

For an example, if you have been working, but you only had a part-time job that doesn’t pay well, you might be expected to try to find a full-time job with a reasonable salary. In a large number of cases, the court will order for experts (vocational evaluators) to evaluate prospects for money earning for a spouse that has been unemployed for a while.

What if they refuse to pay alimony?

After the marriage is over and your former spouse is ordered to make the payment you should immediately take action and contact your lawyer. An order to pay alimony has the same force behind it as any other order the same court gives and contacting your lawyer might quickly remind your former spouse that they have to pay your monthly alimony. If they continue to refuse there is a chance for them to spend some time in jail as well.

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